Have you guys ever heard of the junior high saying, “Birds of a feather flock together?” Well, what if I told you that it wasn’t just a scare tactic your parents utilized to “try” to guide you in the right direction? What if I told you that your parents were actually onto something?
According to, two researchers named Nicholas Chrisakis and James Fowler, who study the science of human networking, things like happiness, obesity, and smoking are all contagious. This is the act of “social contagion,” otherwise known as “behavioral contagion,” which refers to the propensity of certain behaviors exhibited by one person to be copied by others who are either in the vicinity of the original actor or who have been exposed to media coverage describing the behavior of the original actor. In layman’s terms, that means, naturally people have the tendency to take on habits from the people who are either around them or whose behaviors they hear about in much detail.
This is something most people would find amazing, right? This is an instant way to help people connect with others over common ground, which, more often than not, leads to friendships. Usually, this would be considered a blessing, finding people who can share similar interest and ideas with you, but even the most beautiful things can become ugly with time and with the wrong people.
Digging a little deeper, when was the last time you took a step back in your life and examined the people in your circle and exactly what type of energy they were rubbing off onto you? By circle, I mean the people who you spend the most time with, the people who you talk with daily, and the people who you allow to speak over your life with advice, for those particular people are extremely crucial on our journeys in life, and they can be the difference between you achieving your goals verses you becoming stagnant.
Think about it for a second. We all have or have had that one friend who makes us feel completely drained immediately after talking to them, and before our encounter with them, we were so full of life. It is because your energies have officially transferred and you have now taken on your friend’s mood, which is this case is a bad thing.
Taking this one step farther. That becomes a horrid situation because what if you guys had that conversation in the morning? How are you suppose to go out and conquer your day successfully, when you feel like the gum that’s stuck underneath someone’s shoe? Chances are you will have a mediocre day at best, without allowing yourself to reach your full potential that day because your energy was tainted from the start of it.
By all means, I’m not telling you that you should go and cut off all your friends, but what I am telling you is that you have to start examining your friendships better. After all, the quality of your life is greatly determined by the people in your life. Make sure when choosing that circle of friends, you pay close attention to exactly what they bring to the table because after all, they will eventually become a reflection of you.